Women

[Hoofhurr]

This subject has never really been broached here on The Purge but I need a third opinion; and I'll risk going to a group of like minded geeks to basically hear my own opinion voiced back to me. Maybe that's what I need at the moment since my girl-friends that I've asked advice from don't seem to get it as a result of being dead-guilty themselves.

Does it annoy you or should it annoy me when 'the female' makes a casual commitment to hang out at a certain point but when that point arrives she's made other plans? This disease seems to be pervasive among many women and aggravates me endlessly. I know I'm thinking about this too logically but if someone makes plans and then breaks them they either a) aren't aware they are doing it or are forgetful, b) simply have a habit of over-committing themselves c) are fully aware of it and are fucking with you, or d) simply, and perhaps most hurtfully, aren't prioritizing you as highly as their other activities.

In my particular case I think choice (a) is the most appropriate but when I get 'snubbed' repeatedly I begin to wonder if choice (d) isn't more appropriate. She's definitely someone who has a fairly unstructured approach to life and goes with the flow a good deal. This is fine with me most of the time because I can go on living my highly structured life and interact with her when our schedules overlap, but the real issue for me is that I feel I rearrange my schedule when she says shit like 'I would love to see you after your basketball game.' and then when that time arrives she's out partying with her friends.

No, I don't think she's cheating on me and I believe without question that she is doing what she claims she is doing. The focus here should be exclusively on this annoying personality trait and if it annoys you. If it does annoy you have you ever successfully managed a relationship with a person possessing that trait? BTW I wouldn't mind if she broke plans because she had to work late or a friend needed help etc, but if you are breaking plans to go party on a Tuesday night wtf is that about?

I'm trying to decide if this is a deal breaker or not.

Signed,
Pissed off and annoyed.

p.s. I guess this isn't entirely a female trait. Everyone has or has had the friend that says he'll show up but only manages to show up 50% of the time. But he's a dude and you come to accept and expect it. This is unacceptable behavior in someone you might be with everyday until the end of days.